“When people show you who they are, believe them”

Conversation with Oprah Winfey an Maya Angelou from the web site MissMalini.com …

“When people show you who they are, why don’t you believe them? Why must you be shown 29 times before you can see who they really are?” So, when you see red flags in the beginning of a relationship – or anything, really – learn to pay attention to them. You may want to believe something else entirely, but some way or the other, people will always show you exactly who they are. You’re better off listening the first time, rather than waiting to be disappointed again and again and again before it sinks in.

People may not necessarily tell you in words who exactly they are – actually, chances are, they’ll tell you the opposite! – but their actions will always speak for them. When that happens, you’re better off listening and believing them rather than holding onto the (possibly deluded) hope that they’re not like that at all.

Plain-looking men make better husbands

Article written by Elise Sole on Yahoo titled 5 Surprising Secrets To a Happy Marriage 

According to the Journal of Family Psychology. Researchers filmed 82 newlywed couples discussing a marital problem, and in those pairs in which the man was the more attractive one, he was less sensitive to his wife’s feelings. Meanwhile, the less handsome husbands were interested in problem-solving.

…study author Benjamin Karney, PhD, a social psychology professor at the University of California, Los Angeles said in a press release. ’ But it is true that on average, when men are more attractive than their wives — in this sample, at least — it looks like they were less invested. Maybe because they knew that they might have more alternatives — better alternatives, potentially.”

How To Make Your Kids Smarter: 10 Steps Backed By Science

Article from TIME magazine by Eric Barker titled How To Make Your Kids Smarter: 10 Steps Backed By Science

9) Peer Group Matters

So what does have an enormous affect on your children’s behavior? Their peer group.

We usually only talk about peer pressure when it’s a negative but more often than not, it’s a positive.

Living in a nice neighborhood, going to solid schools and making sure your children hang out with good kids can make a huge difference.

What’s the easiest way for a college student to improve their GPA? Pick a smart roommate.

  1. Music Lessons
  2. The Dumb Jock Is A Myth
  3. Don’t Read To Your Kids, Read With Them
  4. Sleep Deprivation Makes Kids Stupid
  5. IQ Isn’t Worth Much Without Self-Discipline
  6. Learning Is An Active Process
  7. Treats Can Be a Good Thing — At The Right Time
  8. Happy Kids = Successful Kids
  9. Peer Group Matters
  10. Believe In Them

“You have to keep bosses minimally happy in order to stay employed, but never lose sight of your real goals.”

Article written by Drake Baer in Fast Company ..

You will have implicit or explicit goals to be met. Machine learning engineer Michael O. Church urges us to transcend them.

“Prioritize long-term growth over short-term objectives delivered by managers,” he notes. “You have to keep bosses minimally happy in order to stay employed, but never lose sight of your real goals.”

Three Grammar Rules that Will Make You Look Smart

Article by Barb Sawyers titled Three Grammar Rules that Will Make You Look Smart …

Fortunately, you need to focus on only a few simple rules, which reflect the most common goofs I see with executives, small business owners, and professionals.

Here they are.

  • Confusing contractions and possessive pronouns, especially “you’re” with “your” and “it’s” and “its.” Never, ever embarrass yourself by writing “its’.” This rhyme should help: It’s, apostrophe, means it is. Its is possessive, just like his.
  • Mixing up sound-alike words, such as writing “except” when you mean “accept” or “horse” when you want “hoarse.”You can learn more about these rules and see more examples here.
  • Misusing “I” or “myself” to avoid writing “me.” Many people mistakenly believe this will please the ghost of their grammar teacher or make them look humble. In fact, “me” is often the correct choice and “myself” should be your pick only when you’re writing about something you did yourself. There’s more about me, I, and myself here.

So that’s it: three simple rules. Apply them and you’ll look smarter.

The Simple Phrase that Increases Effort 40%

From New York Times bestselling author Daniel Coyle’s Talent Code Blog

“To their surprise, researchers discovered that there was one particular type of teacher feedback that improved student effort and performance so much that they deemed it “magical.” Students who received this feedback chose to revise their paper far more often that students who did not (a 40 percent increase among white students; 320 percent boost among black students) and improved their performance significantly. (See the study here.)

What was the magical feedback?

Just one phrase:

I’m giving you these comments because I have very high expectations and I know that you can reach them.

That’s it. Just 19 words. But they’re powerful because they are not really feedback. They’re a signal that creates something more powerful: a sense of belonging and connection.

Looking closer, the phrase contains several distinct signals:

1) You are part of this group.
2) This group is special; we have higher standards here.
3) I believe you can reach those standards.”