Dont Follow Your Passion, Follow Your Effort

Advice from Mark Cuban, entrepreneur and owner of the Dallas Mavericks,

“I hear it all the time from people. “I’m passionate about it.” “I’m not going to quit, It’s my passion”. Or I hear it as advice to students and others “Follow your passion”.

What a bunch of BS.  “Follow Your Passion” is easily the worst advice you could ever give or get.

Why? Because everyone is passionate about something. Usually more than 1 thing.  We are born with it. There are always going to be things we love to do. That we dream about doing. That we really really want to do with our lives. Those passions aren’t worth a nickel.

Think about all the things you have been passionate about in your life. Think about all those passions that you considered making a career out of or building a company around.  How many were/are there ? Why did you bounce from one to another?  Why were you not able to make a career or business out of any of those passions? Or if you have been able to have some success, what was the key to the success.? Was it the passion or the effort you put in to your job or company?”

“Invest in as much of yourself as you can, you are your own biggest asset by far.” — Warren Buffett

From an article titled ‘This Is Warren Buffett’s Best Investment Advice’ on

“Invest in as much of yourself as you can, you are your own biggest asset by far.” — Warren Buffett

“It’s better to hang out with people better than you. Pick out associates whose behavior is better than yours and you’ll drift in that direction.” — Warren Buffett

People are not mind readers. Tell them what you’re thinking.

From 18 Things I Wish Someone Told Me When I Was 18 …

People will never know how you feel unless you tell them. Your boss? Yeah, he doesn’t know you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet. That cute girl you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy? Yeah, you guessed it; she hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given her the time of day either. In life, you have to communicate with others. And often, you have to open your vocal cords and speak the first words. You have to tell people what you’re thinking. It’s as simple as that.

“When your child asks for a hug, don’t let go until they do. You don’t know how long they need that hug for.”

article by Lisa Horten titled 50 of Our All-Time Favorite Pieces of Parenting Advice

7. I always strive to make our home a sanctuary for our family. Children need a place that they know will always be safe.

21. Every morning when you go in to get your child, let them see a smile on your face; it always helps start the day out right.

22. Be your child’s advocate; especially when they are younger, you are their voice.

Winning is fun, but it teaches you nothing. Failure is the best teacher in the world. Winning is a trophy, failing is an education.

From an article on titled Winning is Fun, but it Teaches You Nothing ..

Winning is fun, but it teaches you nothing. Failure is the best teacher in the world. Winning is a trophy, failing is an education.

What does it mean to you to “fail better?” Better than someone else? Fail/fare a little better each time you try? Maybe it means to fail spectacularly! Go big or go home! Or how about failing but getting better along the way—getting better through failure—and learning something from the experience? I believe that is the key: to allow failure to be a springboard from which we succeed and grow.

“Parent the child you have, not the one you wished for”

I came across this quote in an interesting post Parent The Child You Have at It reminded me of a few quotes from Dr Phil’s book Family First …

“One of my goals as a parent was to help my children achieve their own goals while pursuing their own passions.”

“Authenticity is fostered when you set goals suited to the youngster’s interests, abilities, and talents.”

“One of the great responsibilities you have as a parent – and one of the greatest gifts you can give your children – is to teach them to develop their gifts fully and to build their lives around whatever it is that fulfills them.”