“We Teach People How to Treat Us”

From Dr. Phil’s book Life Strategies

Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want.

You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don’t. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others’ behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot.

“Get mad, then get over it.”

Attributed to Colin Powell (Chairman of the US Joint Chiefs of Staff, US Secretary of State). Interesting post written by Bruno Gideon titled Get mad, then get over it

“Being angry is okay as long as it is temporary. My advice to you is: to get mad, then get over it. If you let your feelings continue, they will boomerang and hurt you. Don’t suppress the emotion; allow it to come to the surface, try to analyze it, and then let go.”

“Follow your fear … if something scares you a bit, it means that you should follow it a little bit

Tina Fey actress, comedian, writer and producer known for her roles on Saturday Night Live and 30 Rock …

“Follow your fear, which in improv usually leads to someone making you sing an improvised song or rap, which is the worst thing that can happen. But the larger thing is the notion that if something scares you a bit, it means that you should follow it a little bit. Now, ‘follow your fear’ does not mean that you should get in the car with a weirdo in a small parking lot. But it does mean that there are moments in your life when something comes up, a chance to move to a new city, or the chance to study in another continent, read your short story out loud, and you feel a lot of fear. And that fear means that you should definitely do it.”

“Whenever you meet anybody, look for something nice to say about them, because even if they’ve got a hideous face they might have fantastic ankles or lovely hair, and compliments do cheer people up enormously.”

Quote from author Jilly Cooper from a post titled The 101 best pieces of advice ever received

“Whenever you meet anybody, look for something nice to say about them, because even if they’ve got a hideous face they might have fantastic ankles or lovely hair, and compliments do cheer people up enormously.”

Toughness has nothing to do with size, physical strength or athleticism … I believe that toughness is a skill, and it is a skill that can be developed and improved.

From the book titled “Toughness” written by former Duke basketball player and ESPN Analyst Jay Bilas …

Toughness has nothing to do with size, physical strength or athleticism. Some players
may be born tough, but I believe that toughness is a skill, and it is a skill that can be developed and improved. Michigan State coach Tom Izzo always says, “Players play, but tough players win.”

“You can’t have everything you want, but you can have everything that matters to you”

Quote from Marissa Mayer, Google’s Vice President of Location and Local Services on Callie Schweitzer’s blog on Huffington Post …

“…she believes there’s no such thing as burnout — you can work really hard for the rest of your life as long as you know what matters most to you and make sure you get that.

What causes burnout, she said, is the build up of resentment at having to give up what really matters. Is it dinner with friends on Tuesday nights? A movie with your husband on the weekends?

Whatever it is, make sure you get it because otherwise you’ll spend the rest of the week resenting what you didn’t get to have — what work deprived you of, and you’ll be less productive.